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Monthly Archives: December 2012

Who Is Responsible?…

I have been working on this site for many years.  I have much to offer and am willing to put my all into this.  I am a therapist with life strategies that make sense.  I’m not into analysis, long term therapeutic interventions, or figuring out why we do what we do.  I want to help people figure out what to do to get the results they want out of life.

We have reached the point where six year olds are murdered! Schools are not safe therefore our children are not safe. How does that make sense?   Twenty, six year olds, were murdered!  The killer was troubled.  Really?  And no one thought it could get this bad?  No one saw the signs?   We seem to be going through life, blind,  as bystanders.  Everyone sees, but no one does anything.  And now, twenty,  six year olds were murdered.  No one knew?  No one saw there was a serious problem? I am of course referring to the tragedy of Sandy Hook.

Some parents say, no,not my child.  I reach out to say, your child is showing signs that concern me.  I  tell parents, their children are in pain to get the response, ” not my child.”

I was somewhat guilty of the same response.  When my son first showing signs of drug use, abuse and later addiction, I did not see the signs.  Honestly, I didn’t know the signs.  I knew something was wrong but did not know what.  After all, he was an adolescent going through changes and stages that were normal for his age.  I knew he was having difficulty but never thought it was drugs.  I knew he was struggling but I thought it was with growing up.  So what did we do, we brought him for therapy.  You may not know what your children are going through, but you do know when something is wrong.

We are responsible for what we do in life.  We are responsible to respond to the signs.  We are responsible to evaluate our pain and to move forward in life.  We are responsible to ask for help when we don’t have the answers.  We are responsible for our children. We are responsible to get the help they need.

Don’t wait for tragedy.  Get the help you need now.  Life is a struggle and it is not easy to get through the challenges.  ASK for help.  You don’t have all the answers.   No one has all the answers.  Just don’t go it alone.  Get the help you need along the way.  Contact Madelynan Doyle at mdoyle@yourexcellence within.org .  Or call 516-236-3290 for an office visit in Lynbrook, New York.  But if you are not local,  phone sessions and skype sessions are available.