"Put your heart, mind, and soul into even your smallest acts.
This is the secret of success."
Swami Sivananda

Self Esteem

What Questions Are You Asking? Are You Moving Forward?

depressed 9How many people look for the answers on line and expect to learn from them, grow  from them and apply them to their lives with only the investment of reading on line?  I make lots of suggestions on strategies to help get through life challenges.  Have you read them?  Have you followed them. Have you done the work to make some of the strategies new habits? Has any change taken place?

The greater question is, how badly do you want things to change in your life.  Are  you struggling with a relationship, or relationships in general?  Are you struggling with your child and having trouble with parenting issues?  Are you feeling badly about yourself and just feeling low self esteem?  Are you unhappy with work and feeling “stuck” where you are and not knowing which way to go to get unstuck?  Are you depressed?  Do you always see the negative and struggle to find the positive in life.

appreciationAre you happy with your life?  If you are not, what exactly has to change in order to make you happy with your life? Have you asked yourself that question?  What exactly needs to change in order for you to feel happy?  That is the important question to answer.  Once you can answer that question, you can begin to make changes.  You can begin to create the life you want.

However, sometimes you need help in asking those hard questions.  Obviously, only you can find your own answers, but learning to ask the right questions can be a process and that process may be best learned with guidance.  Call or email at 516 236 3290 or mdoyle@yourexcellencewithin.org in order to set up an appointment via phone, skype or office visit.  It’s not always as easy as reading the answers on line.  Sometimes, we need some professional assistance.  Call or email today.  Don’t stay “stuck” where you are; learn how to move on and move forward.

 

 

 

It’s All About Choices. It’s About The Stories We Tell Ourselves And What We Choose To Believe….

I was working with a young lady who is absolutely a lovely person.  However, she doesn’t feel good about herself at all.  In fact, I would say that she hates herself and doesn’t even feel she belongs in this world.   She can’t seem to find a way to belong. She is in her mid twenties and although she has a career goal, that seems to be her only goal.  She has no friends; she struggles with being solely dependent on her family, loving them yet hating them at the same time because she is so dependent on them.

worry2She is simply stuck in this really unhappy place in her own head.  The stories she has told herself, many of which have been reinforced by the people she most loves, keep her trapped and unhappy.  She chooses to believe these stories and stays stuck.  Her fear of changing these beliefs is more frightening than remaining trapped, stuck and very unhappy.  Can you relate?

Many people contribute to the development of your self image: parents, siblings, friends, relatives, teachers, religious leaders and everyone else that comes into your life.  If you are not careful, you could let the world develop your self image rather than you creating you.  I remember having a math teacher tell my mother that “I just didn’t have a math mind.  I was a C math student.”  Now, if I were a different type, I could have accepted that as a part of me and then given myself permission to just be a C math student.  Instead, I was so angry she labeled me that I had to prove her wrong and worked like a dog to be an A math student.  However, when I was in my early years as a student, a teacher told my mother “An Artist, she is not.”  I guess I was too young to get angry at an adult, I accepted this as a fact, and never developed skills as an artist.  We all have to be careful of what messages we give others, but we also have to realize, that it is up to us to accept or reject these so called facts about who we are.  If we accept what others say about us as truths, then we let others determine who we are and what we will become.  Or, we can work really hard and create our own self image.

relaxation 5Who do you want to be an expert on you?  You, or someone or everyone out there thinking they know who you are?  When you give others the power, you will never be happy with you.  When you take responsibility for who you are, you can begin to feel better about you.  Don’t give up the power. That’s when you feel trapped, stuck and very unhappy. Your power is within you.  Find your excellence within.

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Who Is Responsible?…

I have been working on this site for over 4 years.  I have much to offer and am willing to put my all into this.  I am a therapist with life strategies that make sense.  I’m not into analysis, long term therapeutic interventions, or figuring out why we do what we do.  I want to help people figure out what to do to get the results they want out of life.

I put on the news to find out that we have reached the point where six year olds are murdered!  How does that make sense?   Twenty, six year olds, were murdered!  The killer was troubled.  Really?  And no one thought it could get this bad?  No one saw the signs?   We seem to be going through life, blind,  as bystanders.  Everyone sees, but no one does anything.  And now, twenty,  six year olds were murdered.  No one knew?  No one saw there was a serious problem?

Some parents say, no,not my child.  I reach out to say, your child is showing signs that concern me.  I  tell parents, their children are in pain to get the response, ” not my child.”

We are responsible for what we do in life.  We are responsible to respond to the signs.  We are responsible to evaluate our pain and to move forward in life.  We are responsible to ask for help when we don’t have the answers.  We are responsible for our children. We are responsible to get the help they need.

Don’t wait for tragedy.  Get the help you need now.  Life is a struggle and it is not easy to get through the challenges.  ASK for help.  You don’t have all the answers.   No one has all the answers.  Just don’t go it alone.  Get the help you need along the way.  Contact Madelynan Doyle at mdoyle@yourexcellence within.org.

 

Don’t You Just Love The Spring? Time For Spring Cleaning!

The sound of the birds chirping.  Everything gets green.  The flowers start budding and there is beautiful color everywhere.  You take off the layers of clothing and look forward to going out.  You don’t mind doing things because the heavy burden of winter gear is all over with and put out of sight.  Everything is better. Everything feels better.  Everything looks better.  You are better.

Time to spring clean.  You clean the windows and open them throughout the house so the air begins to flow and you actually feel your connection to the universe.  You hear the birds singing, watch the squirrels chasing one another, and hear the people as they walk by with their dogs.  You want to freshen up the house, take out the summer clothes and catch some of the rays of the sun while you feel this renewal within you and all around you.  You have energy again.  You walk with a bounce.  You clean with the music playing and you find that you are looking forward.  You are looking forward to the warm weather and the season of summer and of being outside.

While you are cleaning everything outside: the house, the walls, the windows, the furniture, the lawn, the garden, what about the internal cleaning?  How do you clean up your spirit?  How do you clean up your mindset?  How do you clean up your attitude?  You already feel your winter blues lifting.  The weather alone makes you happier and hopeful.  Now is the time to clean up whatever thought patterns that have been bringing you down or standing in your way of moving forward.  Allow yourself to grow with the garden.

Contact Madelynan Doyle for some Spring Time, Personal Growth for some personal development and spring cleaning.