"Put your heart, mind, and soul into even your smallest acts.
This is the secret of success."
Swami Sivananda

Your Excellence Within

Madelynan Doyle is a licensed Counselor who has been working in New York City since 1981. Ms. Doyle can always find a positive spin on life lessons. Ms. Doyle is solution oriented. There are no "problems" only challenges which offers opportunity for growth, Ms. Doyle enjoys helping people find their own power and create their own destinies and welcomes you to her website inviting you to join in her E-Counseling and Personal Growth community.

What Questions Are You Asking? Are You Moving Forward?

depressed 9How many people look for the answers on line and expect to learn from them, grow  from them and apply them to their lives with only the investment of reading on line?  I make lots of suggestions on strategies to help get through life challenges.  Have you read them?  Have you followed them. Have you done the work to make some of the strategies new habits? Has any change taken place?

The greater question is, how badly do you want things to change in your life.  Are  you struggling with a relationship, or relationships in general?  Are you struggling with your child and having trouble with parenting issues?  Are you feeling badly about yourself and just feeling low self esteem?  Are you unhappy with work and feeling “stuck” where you are and not knowing which way to go to get unstuck?  Are you depressed?  Do you always see the negative and struggle to find the positive in life.

appreciationAre you happy with your life?  If you are not, what exactly has to change in order to make you happy with your life? Have you asked yourself that question?  What exactly needs to change in order for you to feel happy?  That is the important question to answer.  Once you can answer that question, you can begin to make changes.  You can begin to create the life you want.

However, sometimes you need help in asking those hard questions.  Obviously, only you can find your own answers, but learning to ask the right questions can be a process and that process may be best learned with guidance.  Call or email at 516 236 3290 or mdoyle@yourexcellencewithin.org in order to set up an appointment via phone, skype or office visit.  It’s not always as easy as reading the answers on line.  Sometimes, we need some professional assistance.  Call or email today.  Don’t stay “stuck” where you are; learn how to move on and move forward.

 

 

 

It’s All About Choices. It’s About The Stories We Tell Ourselves And What We Choose To Believe….

I was working with a young lady who is absolutely a lovely person.  However, she doesn’t feel good about herself at all.  In fact, I would say that she hates herself and doesn’t even feel she belongs in this world.   She can’t seem to find a way to belong. She is in her mid twenties and although she has a career goal, that seems to be her only goal.  She has no friends; she struggles with being solely dependent on her family, loving them yet hating them at the same time because she is so dependent on them.

worry2She is simply stuck in this really unhappy place in her own head.  The stories she has told herself, many of which have been reinforced by the people she most loves, keep her trapped and unhappy.  She chooses to believe these stories and stays stuck.  Her fear of changing these beliefs is more frightening than remaining trapped, stuck and very unhappy.  Can you relate?

Many people contribute to the development of your self image: parents, siblings, friends, relatives, teachers, religious leaders and everyone else that comes into your life.  If you are not careful, you could let the world develop your self image rather than you creating you.  I remember having a math teacher tell my mother that “I just didn’t have a math mind.  I was a C math student.”  Now, if I were a different type, I could have accepted that as a part of me and then given myself permission to just be a C math student.  Instead, I was so angry she labeled me that I had to prove her wrong and worked like a dog to be an A math student.  However, when I was in my early years as a student, a teacher told my mother “An Artist, she is not.”  I guess I was too young to get angry at an adult, I accepted this as a fact, and never developed skills as an artist.  We all have to be careful of what messages we give others, but we also have to realize, that it is up to us to accept or reject these so called facts about who we are.  If we accept what others say about us as truths, then we let others determine who we are and what we will become.  Or, we can work really hard and create our own self image.

relaxation 5Who do you want to be an expert on you?  You, or someone or everyone out there thinking they know who you are?  When you give others the power, you will never be happy with you.  When you take responsibility for who you are, you can begin to feel better about you.  Don’t give up the power. That’s when you feel trapped, stuck and very unhappy. Your power is within you.  Find your excellence within.

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Strategies to Beat Depression. Depression, Get Rid Of It Now. Don’t Let Depression Stop You.

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Enjoy The Season Of Thanksgiving: Learn To Appreciate

It is the beginning of the holiday season once again. My favorite holiday is probably Thanksgiving Day. You don’t have to worry about finding the right gifts for all the significant people in your life. You simply spend time with those you love and those you appreciate and it’s the time to reflect on all for which you are grateful. You get in touch with your blessings. There really isn’t a better day. Everyday should be  Thanksgiving.

If we spent a little time each day considering our blessings, we would all feel much better. We would look at the world from a position of gratitude and the negativity would fall away. When you stop and think of your blessings, what happens to your face? Can you feel yourself smile or smirk. Doesn’t it bring joy to heart? Of course it does. Life can be challenging and not every situation brings a smile to your face. You may find yourself disheartened or depressed in some situations. But, stop and think. Look past whatever it is that is bringing you down and focus on something for which you are genuinely grateful. Concentrate on whatever it is that you appreciate and feel blessed for having. Concentrate on that feeling of being blessed. Truly be grateful. Feel the blessing. Realize that you are indeed blessed. Once you really feel the blessing, ask yourself, how did I get this blessing? Where did it come from? Then, realize you are not alone. You are loved. You are indeed blessed. Happy Thanksgiving and give thanks.

 

Learn How To Relax….Enjoy Living…

 

Learn to relax.   Enjoy living. Get the techniques you need to feel better, live happier and simply relax and enjoy your life by contacting mdoyle@yourexcellencewithin.org/blog/.  Reach out for help if you have trouble finding your joy.

 

  • Learn relaxation techniques
  • Increase Self Esteem
  • Reduce Anxiety
  • Begin setting goals for your future
  • Focus on positive thoughts and change How You Feel

 

Each group teleseminar or telephone session  is only $50.00. Sign up now and I will get back to you to discuss times, convenience and goals you hope to reach through attendance.

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Don’t Let Life Stress You Out.

Life is short and it is clear that we are going through a difficult time in history.   Unemployment is rampart and underemployment equally as bad.  People with degrees are taking low income positions just to have a job while others are interning without pay just to get experience in hope of eventually getting a paying job. Politicians are closing down government, businesses are struggling to stay afloat the medical professions are trying to figure out how to help people get well in a system that has lots of glitches.  Everyone you speak with has a list of complaints.  Ask anyone in almost any profession if they are happy at work and each will tell you things are changing and they are no longer enjoying their careers as they once had.

So, what do you do during these stressful times?  How do you continue to find some joy?  It’s important to find ways to relax, de-stress, and enjoy the little things in life.  Stop, take a moment to visualize a beautiful moment or a beautiful scene.  Relive a wonderful event in your mind. Enjoy it again. Enjoy a smile. treat someone with kindness, take a moment to feel gratitude for the riches you have.  Someone loves you.  Someone is kind to you.  Someone relies on you and trusts you.   These are all riches and gifts in life. Think of all of the riches, large and small.

Much of what life offers involves challenge.  These challenges can bring us down, depress us, devastate us at times.  This type of stress can lead to misery and unhappiness.  There is so much we confront in life that is beyond our control.  The only control you have is control of you and how you react to the world around you. Don’t let the world determine your well being. You determine your well being.

If you need professional help contact Madelynan Doyle, PHD at mdoyle@yourexcellencewithin.org. to arrange for a session.   In the world of technology, help can be a click of mouse away.

Hello Again: It Has Been A While…….

Hello.  It’s me again:  Madelynan Doyle, Phd, counselor, therapist, blogger, mother, friend……..  I’ve not posted in quite some time.  I was beginning to think that my site was a waste of my time and that I was writing for myself without any followers.  I am happy to say that I have an increase in viewing as you can see from the comments and I want to take the time to thank all of you that have read and then taken the time to make such positive comments.  Your comments have motivated me to get back into writing but before I get back into the rhythm of writing on a regular basis , I would like to make my credentials and services perfectly clear.

First of all, I am no website guru.  In fact, technology often frustrates me.  Many of you have asked me where I got my design.  I paid for it through a company who has since gone out of business and although my site looks like a Word Press site, the design was privately set up.  For those newbies who have been asking for suggestions about how to set up a site, my recommendation is to go to Word Press.  They are the best and free.  There is no need for the expense of a privately designed site until your site is  making you money.  For those who have asked about hosting, I would recommend Hostgator.  Hostgator is reasonable and offers tons of technical support and learning tools.  I am technically challenged and rely on their technical support through their chats.  The people in live chat are wonderful. And, for those interested in writing, just write.  Write everyday about anything.    And save everything because out of your writing you will find topics, themes, and work you can expand on.

My real skill and expertise comes in the field of psychology.  I am a licensed counselor and mental health therapist with a doctorate in clinical hypnotherapy.  Although I do not work in clinical psychopathology which requires  medical, psychiatric diagnosis and most often psycho-pharmacology, I do work with everyday, psychological distress that comes along with the human experience.  The process of living includes challenge each and everyday and we are all entitled to experience joy. My goal in therapy and in my website is to show people their inner strength and their ability to find joy even through the toughest life challenges.  So, don’t go it alone.  It always feels better to reach out to somebody.   I offer teleseminars which are really therapeutic sessions over the phone.  If you are not local to my office in Lynbrook, I can arrange a telephone session for individuals or group sessions over the phone.  I teach you to be in charge of your own personal growth and to explore life’s pleasures even in the worst of times.

So don’t go through life’s challenges alone when you don’t have to.  Reach out for help.   Feel free to contact me through my email at:  mdoyle@yourexcellencewithin.org.  Leave a number where I can reach you and let’s see if together we can’t find your joy…..